Sex Advice Blog
Self Reflection for the New Year
I bet you saw hundreds of memes over the years poking fun at failed New Year resolutions. I find reflections for New Year to be a more helpful practice. You are more likely to create change when your goals are small, measurable, and realistic. Less pressure and more...
What does “sex compatibility” mean?
Learn things to consider when questioning if you are sexually compatible and why people end up with sexually incompatible partners.
“The Duke Who Didn’t” review by a sex coach
I was recently reading a romantic novel "The Duke who didn't" by Courtney Milan. What stood out for me the most were sex scenes that were modeling behavior that I often teach my sex coaching clients and hardly ever see depicted in pop culture. How often do you see a...
How to be vulnerable
Vulnerability is scary, which is why it is so hard to convince yourself to be vulnerable. Every instinct in your body screams: "Don't do it! It's unsafe! It'll be used against you!" And yet, learning how to be vulnerable is essential to having loving, connected...
Why common advice on how to fix a sexless marriage won’t work
Seeking advice on what to do about sexless marriage is a frequent topic of most relationship forums. You are often advised to: focus on improving relationship with your spouse, perhaps reading "The seven principles for making marriage work” by a famous marriage...
Why do people cheat?
While it is natural to assume that your partner cheated because you were "not enough" or they don't give a shit about your relationship, there are so many reasons for it that have nothing to do with you. A famous psychotherapist Esther Perel, who closely researched...
Oversensitive Clit Question
“How can I handle having a very sensitive clit? How can I better explain what I need from my partner? I just feel so lost…”
What is normal in sex?
As a sex coach, I see so many people questioning what “normal sex” is. From: — Is it normal not to like kissing? — How many times a month is it normal to have sex? — Is it normal to lie about watching porn? — Is it normal to want to have sex in...
What does a sex coach do?
As a Somatic Sex Coach, I work with clients on the following things: Sexual Mastery, Mindset Mastery, Body Mindfulness & Actionable Plan.
And while I am my clients’ best cheerleader and make sure they feel supported every step of the way, I do hold them accountable in doing what it takes to change their behavior patterns and move towards their goals.
Multiple Orgasms Question
“I would love some tips on how I can bring my multiple orgasms back. I used to be able to have them easily, but since I turned 40, they just fizzled out. “
Sexual polarity – a piece of sexual chemistry puzzle
Interested in getting a better understanding of sexual polarity? My story below is a real-life example of polarity at work... I met Eric on my three months long trip in Central America at a random couch surfing party. He was exactly my type: adventurous, mysterious,...
Navigate Dating & Romantic Relationships Like a Boss by Learning Attachment Theory
If I was to give only one piece of advice to somebody who struggles with intimate relationships it would be: “Learn about different attachment styles and how they play out in your life.”
5 Sex tips for married couples or long term relationships
Couples often put their sex life on a back burner for years, only to question why their spouse feels more like a roommate later. Below I share five practical intimacy tips that will help you stay excited about your partner long-term. 1. Be ok with both your or your...
Question: what people struggle with the most in sex?
I could say that men and women who seek me out for sex coaching struggle a lot with sexual confidence, knowing what exactly to do in the bedroom and feeling comfortable in their skin while doing it… but I think the underlying issue is different…
A Secret to Reclaiming Your Sexual Desire
There is a lot of pressure for women in our society to want sex spontaneously, as well as to be wet at the drop of a hat and orgasm easily and from intercourse only. You may be surprised to learn that according to research only about 15% of women experience exclusively spontaneous desire.
Sex is a learned skill
Sex, just like playing an instrument, is a learned skill. So, what does it take to become a virtuoso lover? It starts with learning how to tune, care for, and play your own instrument, or your body. Both physical and emotional. It starts with: understanding your...
Resentment: How to let go
Cleaning dirty dishes right away takes way less energy than if you wait for days or weeks. Same goes for addressing hurts in your relationships. Not easy, takes vulnerability and discipline but will save you from feeling disconnected and resentful toward your partners in the long run.
Hot date idea to spice up your sex life
Looking for a hot date idea? Under the right circumstances watching porn together can do wonders for your sex life.
I know many men would love the idea while many women would feel the opposite. Heck, I’m one of those women! When it comes to mainstream porn…
I was interviewed on “Get Over It” podcast…
I had a pleasure of talking to Monique Chapman, exploring the topics of sex coaching, desire, mismatching libido, sex advice, creativity and communication in the bedroom. Check it out!
Tips on how to choose the best mattress for sex
Recently I was invited to participate in an expert roundup sharing my thoughts on a topic of what a couple should consider when shopping for the best mattress for sex.
I was mainly looking at physical characteristics that make mattresses more fun to have sex on. I love though that some sexperts saw mattress shopping as an opportunity for partners to talk about different things that matter to both of them when it comes to sex.