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Hi, I’m Anya Laeta – a Somatic Sexologist & Intimacy Coach in San Francisco Bay Area.

I work with individuals & couples who want to thrive sexually.

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Do you feel like you’re crushing it in most areas of your life, but physical intimacy is lacking?

You might have a great connection with your partner but feel completely lost sexually.

Or, you are too anxious or shy to ever bring up the topic of sex in your relationship.

Perhaps, you’ve felt shut down or numb for years, wondering if there’s something wrong with you.

Or have been terrified of losing your person because of sexual incompatibility?

More importantly, you intuitively know there is more to sex but are not sure how to get there.

Moon and starsWhat I offer is more than just a temporary fix. It’s a journey that will connect you with the aliveness, mystery, and power of your sexual self. You might not know it, but it is there, waiting to be awakened.

My Approach is…

  • Desire-oriented » instead of dysfunction
  • Pleasure-focused » it’s more effective to learn through pleasure
  • Somatic » body-based
  • Holistic » taking into consideration all aspects of your life
  • Trauma-informed

These days my coaching is primarily based on the VITA method, which combines modern neurobiology discoveries, holistic healing, and somatic coaching with the ancient wisdom of Tantra, Taoism, and Sacred Sexuality.

The main things we will focus on during sexual coaching are:

  • Finding and clearing internal blockages and deeper conditioning that are at the root of your struggles.
  • A comprehensive understanding of human sexuality and sex education that you never got.
  • Embodiment tools and practices that will help you get out of your head and connect to your body and pleasure on a new level.
  • Creating a safe space for you to learn who you really are as a sexual being.


I will invite you to connect and listen to your body at each step of your process. This is different from talk therapy. Utilizing a powerful combination of somatic tools like breathwork, guided meditations, energy work, sounding, movement, and gentle trauma release, my method offers a unique approach to healing and awakening sexuality.

As a somatic sexologist & intimacy coach, I’ve successfully worked with people struggling with:

  • inability to translate love and affection into connecting sexually
  • lack or loss of libido
  • sexual boredom and obligatory sex
  • getting out of their head
  • experiencing pleasure or anorgasmia
  • feeling discomfort or pain during the intercourse
  • low sexual self-esteem and body image
  • insecurities and doubts in the bedroom
  • not knowing what they want and how to ask for it
  • where to start with the exploration of ethical non-monogamy or kink
What clients have to say about me…
“I must admit in the beginning I was skeptical about Intimacy coaching (as a therapeutic process) and Sexology (as a subject matter). I have serious childhood traumas of every category and have struggled in my relationships and primarily in my relationship with myself. But as I turn 50, and feeling desperate to break the cycle of negative thinking, self image, anxiety, depression and PTSD, I found myself desperate for help that neither years of therapy nor psychiatry were resolving… Being resistant to medications to treat any issues and hoping to find alternatives to healing, I decided to begin sessions with Anya and I am so grateful that I did! In my desperation, I dove into her sessions with complete abandon and willingness to trust in her process, share the most intimate and personal self-truths, my greatest fears, my deepest shames, and in so doing, received a treasure trove of tools, methods, therapy, insight, healing and transformation, that has made a significant impact on my life. I can’t express how thankful and grateful I am, and I highly recommend Anya to help anyone struggling with sex, intimacy, and relationship challenges.” – Jimmy T.

“Anya’s energy is a beautiful and steady guide. Her ability to both contain sessions and expand the field of one’s healing with both her presence and her obvious extensive training, left me in a place of ease, trust, safety, and surrender from our first session.

If you are wanting to be held in complete love and safety, while also encouraged to truly explore your edges of what holds you back, consider her for your healing journey.” – Artemis Mandala, Sex Therapist, LMHCA

“I came to Anya because I struggled to orgasm, only to quickly realize that I had much bigger problems to solve (around my attachment traumas and nervous system dysregulation.) I had been looking in the wrong places for relief and growth and had no idea of the attachment trauma I was carrying before our work together.

Thank you for being such a kind, compassionate, and incredibly insightful coach. I wish I had found you years and years ago, Anya! You’ve helped me more than any psychiatrist, psychologist, or CBT therapist I ever had. I really mean that, and I’ve had a lot.” – Karen M.

“My sessions with Anya are one of the best gifts I have ever given myself. In just a few months, Anya has helped me overcome issues with intimacy that I struggled with my ENTIRE life. She is calming, caring, supportive, and empathetic while keeping you accountable. I am so grateful for the improvements I’m seeing in my life and relationships.” – Tzipora H.

About me:

Trained in the VITA™ Sex, Love, and Relationships Coaching, the Somatica Method of Sex and Intimacy Coaching, Sexological Bodywork, and Tantra, I create a safe space for you by being open-minded, knowledgeable, perceptive, and caring, but I will hold you accountable for the results you are trying to get.

About you:

You want deep, meaningful growth in your relationships and sexuality, and you’re ready to work for it. You want a judgment-free experience where you can learn to be yourself and own your struggles, while willing to try new solutions and step out of your comfort zone.

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