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Question: what people struggle with the most in sex?

Question: what people struggle with the most in sex?

I could say that men and women who seek me out for sex coaching struggle a lot with sexual confidence, knowing what exactly to do in the bedroom and feeling comfortable in their skin while doing it… but I think the underlying issue is different…

A Secret to Reclaiming Your Sexual Desire

A Secret to Reclaiming Your Sexual Desire

There is a lot of pressure for women in our society to want sex spontaneously, as well as to be wet at the drop of a hat and orgasm easily and from intercourse only. You may be surprised to learn that according to research only about 15% of women experience exclusively spontaneous desire.

Sex advice for long-term relationships

Sex advice for long-term relationships

Recently I was invited to participate in an expert roundup by marriage.com. Here is the question a number of experts were asked to answer: " What is the best sex advice for boosting a more satisfying sexual experience in married life? ". Check out some great pieces of...

I was interviewed on “Get Over It” podcast…

I was interviewed on “Get Over It” podcast…

I had a pleasure of talking to Monique Chapman, exploring the topics of sex coaching, desire, mismatching libido, sex advice, creativity and communication in the bedroom. Check it out!

Don’t let your feelings get crusty

Don’t let your feelings get crusty

Cleaning dirty dishes right away takes way less energy than if you wait for days or weeks. Same goes for addressing hurts in your relationships. Not easy, takes vulnerability and discipline but will save you from feeling disconnected and resentful toward your partners in the long run.

Give yourself permission…

Give yourself permission…

“Can you give yourself permission to discover sexuality that works for you instead of following cultural norms and expectations that define it for you?” – Anya Laeta

Sexual polarity

Sexual polarity

Masculine energy is about being in charge, driven, goal-oriented. If you wish your partner was more masculine, ask yourself, "How much of my own Masculine am I willing to give up?" Especially in sex.

Slowing down…

Slowing down…

So often these days I feel like Alice in Wonderland: "We must run as fast as we can, just to stay in place. And if you wish to go anywhere you must run twice as fast." I refuse to buy into this story. All it takes is allowing yourself to take a deep breath…

Perfectionism…

Perfectionism…

“Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect. It’s about never being good enough. It’s all or nothing.”
-Ellen Hendriksen