Don’t let your feelings get crusty

Cleaning dirty dishes right away takes way less energy than if you wait for days or weeks. Same goes for addressing hurts in your relationships. Not easy, takes vulnerability and discipline but will save you from feeling disconnected and resentful toward your partners in the long run.

Sexual polarity

Masculine energy is about being in charge, driven, goal-oriented. If you wish your partner was more masculine, ask yourself, "How much of my own Masculine am I willing to give up?" Especially in sex.

Slowing down…

So often these days I feel like Alice in Wonderland: "We must run as fast as we can, just to stay in place. And if you wish to go anywhere you must run twice as fast." I refuse to buy into this story. All it takes is allowing yourself to take a deep breath…


“Perfectionism isn’t about being perfect. It’s about never being good enough. It’s all or nothing.”
-Ellen Hendriksen

4-week “Pleasure Basics” Women’s Group

Focus. Drive. Productivity. This is our reality of life in a masculine world. Slowing down, getting in touch with your sensuality, prioritizing what feels good to you is my invitation for you to tap more fully into your feminine power.

Sex is a learned skill

"Sex, just like playing an instrument, is a learned skill. Do you know what it takes to become a virtuoso lover?" ~ Anya Laeta

A Secret to Reclaiming Your Sexual Desire

There is a lot of pressure for women in our society to want sex spontaneously, as well as to be wet at the drop of a hat and orgasm easily and from intercourse only. You may be surprised to learn that according to research only about 15% of women experience exclusively spontaneous desire.

Tips on how to choose the best mattress for sex

Recently I was invited to participate in an expert roundup sharing my thoughts on a topic of what a couple should consider when shopping for the best mattress for sex.

I was mainly looking at physical characteristics that make mattresses more fun to have sex on. I love though that some sexperts saw mattress shopping as an opportunity for partners to talk about different things that matter to both of them when it comes to sex.

Hot date idea to spice up your sex life

Looking for a hot date idea? Under the right circumstances watching porn together can do wonders for your sex life.

I know many men would love the idea while many women would feel the opposite. Heck, I’m one of those women! When it comes to mainstream porn…