Looking for a hot date idea? Under the right circumstances watching porn together can do wonders for your sex life.

I know many men would love the idea while many women would feel the opposite. Heck, I’m one of those women! When it comes to mainstream porn more often than not I find it vulgar, tasteless, repetitive, unrealistic, sexist, and full of stereotypes.

However, not all porn made equal. There is porn that is artistic, imaginative, focused on female pleasure, and even specifically made for couples to watch together.

Now I don’t recommend using porn as the main course but rather as an appetizer. And only if your partner is comfortable with this idea. Make sure to talk about your preferences, boundaries, concerns, and expectations. Watching porn together can bring up all sorts of insecurities so if your sex life is already turbulent – work on your intimacy first.

On a bright side, porn can improve your sexual communication, provide some fresh ideas about things/moves/toys to try, and help you have an exciting shared experience.

One of my favorite erotic film directors and producers is Erika Lust. Her films have something that is really hard to come across in a porn world: sexually empowered women enjoying themselves (instead of faking pleasure).

I especially love her series XConfessions: short films based on “confessions” and erotic fantasies that her fans send her. Check it out. Watching it with a lover can be the beginning of a hot exploration.